A man who loves so hard will liberate you on every level. A man whose love emancipates you from your confines, and makes you believe that anything in life is possible.
A man who knows how to love hard will look at you like you are made of magic. The kind of shimmering magic that you feel when you are staring at the sun cast its golden rays down upon the clouds of billowing smoke, turning them bright red; fire red.
A man who will care for you, listen to you, and adore you. He won’t drain your energy or make you feel like giving is only one sided.
A man that respects you on every level- your personality, your values, your religious beliefs, your emotional needs, your physical needs, your general outlook regarding life, your flaws and your past.
A man who prefers date night to consist of you, a man that does more than penetrate you, a man that knows every inch of your body, he knows how to finger your desires and gives you the kind of soul fucking that happens when your limbs are intertwined, and the depth of your conversation becomes the entertainment for the night.
A man who wants to know your fears, worries, insecurities, phobias, and doubts, and wants even more to love you through every last one of them.
A man that knows every layer of your being, your positives, your negatives, your early morning messy look to the flawless red-carpet look of yours. It’s not just how hot or cute you look, it’s the overall essence of your being which he adores. He’s not just into you sexually, he loves you for who you are.
A man who will be there, through all of the inevitable speed bumps of life. A real man will never run away from a situation. He’s a man who’ll put in efforts and fix things no matter how uncomfortable it makes him feel.
A man that on your worst days is there to remind you, that yes you are allowed to feel that way. And when the tough times inevitably roll through your shared lives, make sure you date a man who can look deeply into your eyes and say, “We’ve got this.
A man who lovingly listens to how your day went and knows exactly when to steer you away from your own stormy seas when life’s pressures pile up in too big of a mountain for you to climb on your own.
A man who leaves love notes for you to find scattered throughout your life and not because it’s Valentine’s Day or your Anniversary, but just because. A man that notices the little things you do and won’t miss a chance to express his appreciation towards you to elevate you and to make you feel important. Because he knows at a bone-deep level how much of a prize you are.
A man who wants nothing more than to assist in the ever-expanding greatness of your life. This man will push you forward to live a life of your dreams than be a road blocker. He’s not the man who’ll envy you of your achievements and the large vision you hold for yourself. He’ll celebrate with you and support you. He is not threatened by your successes; he relishes them.
A man that wants to integrate you into his life and bring you around his family and friends. He wants them to love you, and for you to love them. He wants you to be an extension of him and include you in important events and milestones.
This man will open up your world for you, and you will gladly do the same for him.
You see, a REAL man leads with his love.
You will feel it when he enters the room.
You will not have to question.
You will not have to wonder.
He will wrap you in his arms and won’t let go.
A real man loves hard.
You deserve to be loved fiercely.
Be with a man who loves like this, and you will begin to access a depth of love and self-love that you previously had not had access to.
– Mitzi J Hernandez (Published February 22 2018)