How does it feel that your supposed seriously committed boyfriend was cheating on you with me until I discovered as much and broke it off with him immediately?
When you continue, long after the fact, to convince me that he loves you, flaunting headless body shots and posting mean girl memes to make your point, isn’t that queer?
He is no prize. I discarded him for good reason. Congratulations on your win.
I’d much rather be me than you, dear.
~ Just L (November 18, 2018)
Author’s Note: There is nothing poetic about this.
Confident women set healthy boundaries. They aren’t afraid to walk away when something isn’t working and the thought that they won’t be able to find better or that they will wind up alone doesn’t cross their mind. They can quickly see when a situation is damaging and will remove themselves immediately. Only insecure people put up with treatment that is unacceptable, in large part because they feel that that’s what they deserve on some level. When you learn to value yourself, you will weed out anyone who doesn’t truly value you.
“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” -William Penn
Why would “___” (who has a multitude of fake social media profiles), a presumably educated and intelligent adult woman, who has never met me and knows nothing of substance of my life and loves, but has continually stalked me over the past two years post this kind of crap?
She also obsesses on my poetry site every week, presuming my every word has something to do with her life, which she then uses to cause others in her life tremendous pain and suffering.
How sad. Doesn’t she know this only causes others to feel embarrassed for her, and now me.
I feel a strange mix of compassion and pity for her.
Especially, when she tries to insult me with words like “OLD” or “DESPERATE” or implies that if my life was all that wonderful, I wouldn’t have to brag (write) about it…
OH HONEY! Just wait. 55 is far from old. I will forever be a young spirit. I am self-employed, I am free to travel, enjoy the finer things and savor the simple treasures. I have experience and wouldn’t trade that for the world.
And as for my life? It is simply MY life and I feel extraordinarily blessed that I have been able to create it in spite of challenges or hardships over the years. I am proud to be a woman who inspires others to reach higher and a mother my adult children admire. I have the deep pleasure of satisfaction of being a leader in my profession, in part because I have consciously cultivated deeply authentic, lasting relationships.
This Thanksgiving I will be hosting my family near and far, as well as my ex and his longtime love. We will celebrate our children, our successes, our resiliency, our shared stories, and laugh with truly grateful hearts.
I challenge you to do the same. Apparently, you have a lot of time on your hands and a lot of years in front of you. May time humble you.
~ Lori J Bumgardner instead of Just L, because there is nothing poetic about this (September 29, 2018)
Author’s Note: Images taken from public posts on facebook. Any publishing by a facebook user using the Public setting is a release under a free content license.
Please just stop stalking me. I guarantee you that I am not your problem. I broke it off with him earlier this month. He was never mine anyway.