A list of cited and collected quotes.

JUST L QUOTES

Sometimes God closes doors that we, on our own, cannot. (2008)

Love is not always fireworks and shooting stars; sometimes it’s a simple understanding and trust between two people. BUT I SURE LIKE THE FIREWORKS!!! (2010)

There are moments in our lives when we are offered incredible gifts, and our only obligation is to accept that God knows our hearts and has listened to our deepest desires whispered in the darkest nights. So I remind you my beloved YEARN FOR the impossible. (2010)

When I love you, you may have it all, take it all. (2010)

Love until it hurts or no longer hurts, which ever takes longer. (2013)

There are times when offering a little help with the simple things make an extraordinary difference in another’s life… Never underestimate the elegance of kindness. (2013)

Being single is not a personality disorder. (2014)

Do not underestimate the intensity of my quietness. My passion for you is perfectly comfortable inside my own skin. But oh how I love to feel yours. (2015)

Stop praying for a true love, if you are unprepared to truly love an imperfect person. (2016)

Let us not compare our sadness. May we love each other through it much as we celebrate each other’s happiness without compare. (2016)

Guardedness is a companion that isn’t easy to break free from. (2016)

Not one of us is free of making mistakes in a relationship; however, we must know how to recognize our own failures and fix them with love. The even greater challenge is to learn to allow the person you love the grace to come back from their mistakes. (2016)

Love only works when you both love or fight for each other with the same intensity, but not at the same time. (2016)

Fight to defend a lover, not to win one. (2016)

A heart can never be stolen. It only goes where it wants to. (2016)

Wear the rose colored glasses and be fiercely kind. (New Year Resolution 2017)

He kept repeating, “I’ve been single a long time…” as if that made him an expert on relationships. I couldn’t help but think, maybe that just makes you an expert at being single. (2017)

He told me (in that familiar Jamaican lilt), “You have to remember baby you are a writer and I am a drummer. Guitars and keyboards play a lot of notes. I keep the time.” (2017)

To dare love wide and deep and long and high means that you have decided in advance that you are prepared for the depth of pain that may also come. (2017)

Chemistry is not the same as compatibility. Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. (2018)

FAVORITE QUOTES

In alphabetical order by author.

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. – eden ahbez

I love you – those three words have my life in them. – Alexandrea to Nicholas II

I know there isn’t that much demand for blurry photographs taken while running; but you know, who cares the world is a playground… you know that when you are a kid but somewhere along the way everyone forgets it! – Zooey Deschanel as Allison (Yes Man, 2008)

We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy. – Walter Anderson

They will whisper, “It’s not easy, it’s not easy.” But hold your ground. You will get through it. – Tere Arigo

It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy; — it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others. – Jane Austen (Sense and Sensibility)

Heartbreak teaches you something about the world. – Annette Bening as Dorothea (20th Century Women, 2016)

That’s the key to having it all: stop expecting it to look like what you thought it was going to look like. It’s true of the fall lines, and it’s true of relationships. – Candice Bergen as Enid (Sex and the City S5, Ep5, 2002)

Our lives are a collection of STORIES truths about who we are, what we believe, what we came from, how we struggle and how we are strong. When we can let go of what people think, and OWN our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are ENOUGH just as we are, and that we are worthy of LOVE and BELONGING. –Brené Brown

LOVE: We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from the offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare. – Brené Brown

I am deeply in love with the independence that comes along with being selfish with myself and my heart, and refusing to rip it in half in order to share it with someone who might not be willing to rip theirs just as evenly for me. – A.J. Burgos

I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things… I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind. – Leo Buscaglia

It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. – Joseph Campbell

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two. – Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

I do not know what it is about you that closes and opens, only something in me understands the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses. – e.e. cummings

There are some days when I think I’m going to die from an overdose of satisfaction. – Salvador Dali

A woman’s brain is a massively parallel super-computer and there is no way to express the emotional currents in her heart in such a recent invention as language. – Writer known only as Dreamwalker

The years teach much which the days never knew. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered. – F. Scott Fitzgerald

The mystery of what a couple *is*, exactly, is almost the only true mystery left to us, and when we have come to the end of it there will be no more need for literature — or for love, for that matter. – Mavis Gallant

A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave. – Mahatma Gandhi

Ruin is a gift; it is the way to transformation. – Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Love, Pray)

Do NOT fall in love with men who cannot reciprocate your love. It only reenforces that you are unlovable. – From the TV show Glee (November 2009)

Unrequited love can be survived in a way that once-requited love cannot. – John Green

“Many mistakes but no regrets,” would be a wonderful way to end every relationship that has outlived its lessons. – Randi Gunther, Ph.D. from When It’s Time to Let a Relationship Go

Maybe that individual is amazing. Just not your amazing. When you find your amazing, they will think you are amazing, too. All of those things you did that were silly, rejected, or unappreciated, someone else is praying for. – Steve Harvey (paraphrased)

The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places. – Ernest Hemingway

There are beautiful flowers that are scentless and beautiful women that are unlovable. – Houellé

Kindness and intelligence don’t always deliver us from the pitfalls and traps: there are always failures of love, of will, of imagination. There is no way to take the danger out of human relationships. – Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it’s cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. . . . It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don’t risk everything, you risk even more. – Erica Jong (How to Save Your Own Life, 1977)

What is it to be in love? Well, I’m in love, and it means you feel you have sailed into port. At the end of the road, after each day of the petty struggle for power and glory, I get to be with this marvelous human being whose company is continually interesting, whom I admire, who can speak the truth to me, who I am loyal to and fond of to an excessive degree, whom I crave being naked with, and who reciprocates these feelings. – Garrison Keillor, writing as Mr. Blue on Salon

To dare is to lose one’s footing momentarily. Not to dare is to lose oneself. – Soren Kierkegaard

My love for you is past the mind, beyond my heart, and into my soul. – Boris Kodjoe (Madea’s Family Reunion)

I do not at all understand the mystery of grace – only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us. – Anne Lamott

The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial in any love story. It changes the relationship of two people much more strongly than even the final surrender; because this kiss already has within it that surrender. – Emil Ludwig

We have two lives—the one we learn with and the life we live after that. – Bernard Malamud (The Natural)

We rise and fall and light from dying embers
Remembrances that hope and love last longer
And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love cannot be killed or swept aside.
– Lin Manuel Miranda (from his sonnet read at the 2016 Tony Awards)

If you are nothing more than a yes-girl there is no spark, no tension, no heat, no interplay. It’s boring. You become totally predictable and never challenge him. You become an accessory. – Dr. Phil McGraw

A woman asks little of love: only that she be able to feel like a heroine. – Mignon McLaughlin (The Second Neurotic’s Notebook, 1966)

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. – Thomas Merton

Forgiveness is the economy of the heart…it saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits. – Hannah Moore (Practical Piety)

A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy. – George Jean Nathan

What passes for woman’s intuition is often nothing more than man’s transparency. – George Jean Nathan

Reality depends on what you are willing to imagine and allow. – Tots Navarro

In revenge and in love woman is more barbaric than man is. – Friedrich Nietzsche (Beyond Good and Evil)

Dreams are necessary to life. – Anaïs Nin

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naïve or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. – Anaïs Nin

I believe that every single event in life happens as an opportunity to choose love over fear. – Oprah

The heart has its reasons which reason knows nothing of. – Blaise Pascal (inked on my side)

Men and women are on a journey of discovery which is humanly unstoppable – a search for the truth and a search for a person to whom they might entrust themselves. – John Paul II (Faith and Reason)

The strength of such a (mature) love emerges most clearly when the beloved stumbles, when his or her weaknesses or sins come into the open. One who truly loves does not then withdraw love, but loves all the more, loves in full consciousness of the other’s shortcomings and faults, and without in the least approving of them. For the person as such never loses his/her essential value. The emotion which attaches to the value of the person is loyal. – John Paul II (Love and Responsibility)

If you love something, love it completely, cherish it, say it, but most importantly, show it. Life is finite and fragile, and just because something is there one day, it might not be the next. Never take that for granted. Say what you need to say, then say a little more. Say too much. Show too much. Love too much. Everything is temporary but love. Love outlives us all. – R. Queen

Be a good kisser. It might make your wife forget that you never take the trash out. – Randy, age 8

“…. believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart. And try to love the questions themselves. – Rainer Maria Rilke

Do not assume that she who seeks to comfort you now, lives untroubled among the simple and quiet words that sometimes do you good. Her life may also have much sadness and difficulty, that remains far beyond yours. Were it otherwise, she would never have been able to find these words. – Rainer Maria Rilke

I hold this to be the highest task for a bond between two people: that each protects the solitude of the other. – Rainer Maria Rilke

We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love. – Tom Robbins

“We pardon to the extent that we love.” – Francois de La Rochefoucauld

I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. – Theodore Isaac Rubin

Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. – Miguel Angel Ruiz (The Four Agreements)

Let the beauty you love be what you do. – Rumi

And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye. – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Perhaps love is the process of my leading you gently back to yourself. – Antoine de Saint-Exupery

The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man. – Madame de Stael

If you smoke after sex, you’re doing it too fast. – s.s.b-b (Love Blender Digest)

I got a woman who I can’t stand to be two feet away from. – Mark Wahlberg as Bobby Shafford (The Perfect Storm)

You undo me. Completely. Leaving me senseless, wanting, aching. – Star of David (Excerpt from “My Body Betrays Me,” Love Blender Digest, January 2009)”Nothing is more important than that you see and love the beauty that is right in front of you, or else you will have no defense against the ugliness that will hem you in and come at you in so many ways. – From Anathem by Neal Stephenson

“She reached up and kissed him on the lips. It was a small kiss. It lasted only two or three seconds, just long enough to taste the future.”  – Francisco X. Stork, The Last Summer of the Death Warriors

We don’t know who we are until we are connected to someone else. We are just better human beings when we are with the right person. – Tara to Jax (Sons of Anarchy, Season 3 Premier)

Marriage hath in it less of beauty but more of safety, than the single life; it hath more care, but less danger, it is more merry, and more sad; it is fuller of sorrows, and fuller of joys; it lies under more burdens, but it is supported by all the strengths of love and charity, and those burdens are delightful. – Bishop Jeremy Taylor

You don’t see why your world has no love to give, well, what goes around comes around. – The Head And The Heart (All We Ever Knew, 2016)

The simple lack of her is more to me than others’ presence. – Edward Thomas (1878- 1917)

All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. – Leo Tolstoy

Stupid people see beauty only in beautiful things. – Oliviero Toscani quoting Dadaist Saying

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage. – Lao TzIf I ever lose someone for having too much depth, for having too much soul, for having standards too high, for dreaming too big, for putting the quality of my life before a career, for keeping it real, for loving too hard, for pushing them to see the grass is only green where you water it… Then the loss was not mine to begin with. – Unknown

You don’t get to choose, you just fall. – Unknown

Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again? – Unknown

When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let go. – Iyanla Vanzant

Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready. – Nayyirah Waheed

How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being? – Oscar Wilde

I’ve taken love heroin, and now I can’t ever have it again. – William (Notting Hill, 1999)

Any true thing between two people is too rare to be normal. – Tennessee Williams (Cat on a Hot Tin Roof)