Don’t Ever Allow There To Be “The One” That Got Away

Don’t ever allow there to be “the one that got away”; make that ONE, “the one that almost got away”…

How do you know they are “THE ONE”?

When you can no longer imagine your life without them. Then, move heaven and earth to be together.

(And if you can imagine your life without them, move along.)

~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, December 2, 2018)

Slipped

Author’s Note: I am one of those individuals not interested in “cuffing.” I’d much rather attend holiday events alone so I can mingle without worrying about a plus one. I tend to turn up the heat and dance the winter blues away with friends.

Cuffing Season” is when one finds a mate for the fall and winter months, but not someone who’s intended to last beyond (though it’s certainly possible). The relationship tends to thaw out when the snow does.

Are you a hopeful romantic like me? You will enjoy the poetry and mindful ramblings of Kate Rose. She is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. She writes about love and truly believes the best is yet to come.

For me, it will always be about love…

For me, it will always be about love

Not the looking for

Or falling in

Nor the being in

Simply the being

Open to

Trusting

Holding space for

Again and again.

~Just L (November 5, 2018)

 

Author’s Note: My love for you was the most truthful thing I ever felt. Wiser, gentler, more vulnerable.  I approached each day and every situation anew. Certain we were brought together to be a force for love. And yet, love did not win. The distance between us is too great. I had to choose to leave you and love me.

Unrequited love can be survived in a way that once-requited love cannot. – John Green

You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready…

“Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.”

~ Lillian Vilchez, Married at First Sight Star on her and Tom Wilson’s divorce, May 31, 2017

Ditch The List

I am notorious for making lists. To-do lists, wish lists, lists of gaps in my wardrobe or decor, client deadline lists, etc. I am to a fault highly organized and punctual.

I also have a repution for living my life with a can-do spirit and abundant optimism. So much so Lori’s “la la land” was where people thought I lived 30+ years before it became a popular musical.

This week a pastor and author friend sent me this kind message: “I was thinking about you yesterday. It’s amazing to me how you have gone through so many trials and tribulations and still come through them on top, optimistic, energetic, beautiful, and looking to the future. Love being around you – which hasn’t happened enough lately!  … Could use a Lori fix.”

His note immediately lifted my spirits, but more than that it caused me to pause and think about how I navigate the world with such resilience, joy, and dare I say grace?!

After all, I am asked this very question (How do you navigate the world with…) quite often as if I know a secret or have discovered an elusive formula.

I have lots of answers: Forgive early and often, follow your bliss, make yourself happy first, only give from your overflow, be grateful, enjoy the present, grieve as long as it takes… the list goes on.

Throw out your list!

A longer list doesn’t make you more productive. In fact, you may find if you ignore your sacred to-do list for two weeks or a month, many of the items are no longer important.

I actually discovered this while living in Mexico for six months last year as when I returned home to six months of mail, I realized only about 5% of it required my attention.

Do you have a list of things you’ve promised to do for other people? Is it so big it causes you anxiety? Are you on this list anywhere?

I am not giving you permission to not keep your word. I believe strongly your word is your bond. I am not ignoring that we all have obligations, which very often are quite challenging. What I am saying is … asking rather, “Why are you signing up for things that you are not passionate about?” Guess what? Other people are likely passionate about some of the very tasks you are slogging through. Stop filling the space and feeling resentful. Get out of their way, for God’s sake.

As a very competent and capable person I know firsthand it is easy to fall into the trap of volunteering for everything. Stop it.

Whenever you say yes to something you are saying no to something else. Too often it is you (or your family), or a longer-term dream.

Do I still make lists? Of course, I do! But more often than not –  unless it is a shopping list – I write it down and never look back.

These days I am too (hmmm, busy is certainly not the right word, though some who do not know me well think I am always busy) enthralled with speaking dreams into the Universe and watching with awe how the Universe conspires to help me achieve it.

I have found that putting me first is the best way for me to be my best self and better to and for others.

Write that down.

~Just L (September 20, 2018, Goddess Wisdom)

 

Reflections on 1977

In 1977 (8th grade), I thought I was more brains than beauty, my limbs were too long, my nose was too big, my breasts were too small, my (23″) waist wasn’t small enough… Today, at age 55, I know that I had everything I needed. Just add a bigger smile.

Embrace it all. Now. Do not let another day go by without loving ALL of you!

~Just L (July 7, 2018, Goddess Wisdom)

1977

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2018

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