BLESS them

When they go low, we go high. – Michelle Obama

Listen to this motivational speech: 5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Hate The Haters

Author’s Note:

I was recently accused of chasing boys that are half my age and out of my league, and portraying a lifestyle on social media that I really cannot afford. It is true that I have married and dated men on average 15 years younger than me. I’ve never had to chase a man. I regularly attract similarly young at heart, spirited, attractive, professional individuals. As far as my lifestyle, I graduated from two prestigious universities with two children in tow, and I am fortunate to have honed my professional craft over 30 years and make a good living. I have bought and paid for everything I have. As far as my “life style,” I tend to collect memories and not things. Lately it seems my picker is broken as I was fooled by a man who pretended to be a “good guy” yet ended up being an individual of low character with no moral compass. Unfortunately, his “younger, fitter, superior” girlfriend whom he was cheating on, but I never knew about, and certainly have never met, considers it is fair game to hate on me and victimize me further. Perhaps, she’d consider asking him to return his drums and equipment I purchased and he uses to make his living. *wink*

Selah. Moving on.

 

 

If You Want to Change the World, Love a Woman

As we enter 2019, and become resolute about new things, it is a good time to revisit this gorgeous piece:

When a fairly spiritual male friend of mine who had finally found and was deepening into committed relationship with his soul mate confided in me he was thinking of being single again, and in the next breath expressed his latest idea for raising consciousness worldwide, I wrote this poem.

If you want to change the world… love a woman-really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing-
every winged one, every furry and scaled one,
every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,
every not yet born and dying one…
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.
If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet,
you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.

If you want to change the world… love a woman-one woman
beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,
beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety
and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices
we have forgotten that true liberation
comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire
and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see-really see
if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.
If not, walk away. Right now.
Don’t waste time “trying.”
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her
because ultimately it’s not with who,
but when we choose to surrender.

If you want to change the world… love a woman.
Love her for life-beyond your fear of death,
beyond your fear of being manipulated
by the Mother inside your head.
Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her.
Say you’re willing to LIVE with her,
plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,
by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess
through your adoration and devotion.

If you want to change the world… love a woman
in all her faces, through all her seasons
and she will heal you of your schizophrenia-
your double-mindedness and half-heartedness
which keeps your Spirit and body separate-
which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self
for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman.
Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one
and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,
trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesn’t need any more choices.
What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,
of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,
of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots
strong enough to hold the Earth together
while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.

If you want to change the world… love a woman, just one woman .
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.
Love her through her fear of abandonment
which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.
No, she is not weak in her codependence.

If you want to change the world… love a woman
all the way through
until she believes you,
until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,
her wildness have returned to her-
until she is a force of love more powerful
than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.

If you want to change the world,
lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.
Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger
and love a woman…
beyond all of your striving for greatness,
beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you
if you would only take her in your arms
and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.

What if peace is a dream which can only be remembered
through the heart of Woman?
What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine
is the key to opening Her heart?

If you want to change the world…love a woman
to the depths of your shadow,
to the highest reaches of your Being,
back to the Garden where you first met her,
to the gateway of the rainbow realm
where you walk through together as Light as One,
to the point of no return,
to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.

By Lisa Citore (2008)

See Lisa’s other poetry here.

Morning Love

I awake, feel behind me
To find you’re not there
You are closing the curtains
To block out the sun’s glare

“I have to pee”
A morning ritual
Pat your naked booty
So simple and natural

I smell your pillow
A smile crosses my face
Cloves and guava root
You fill the whole place

I close my eyes
Note your shadow above
I know what comes next
“Morning love”

First we fork
Then we spoon
Entangled in blankets
Until well after noon

Your arm around me
Holding me tight
I scoot a lil’ closer
The world is just right.

~ Just L (December 6, 2018)

Why Do Some People Attract So Many Mosquitoes?

It’s not a competition
But if it is, I’ve won
I am living the dream
And it’s only just begun

I’ve been used and betrayed
And poked in the eye
I confidently fix my crown
My head and my heels high

I smell like cotton candy
My skin is just as sweet
Small minds want a taste
Their otherwise incomplete

Mocked, misunderstood
For my great happiness
Pests cannot lift up others
Cannot comprehend this

My fairy tale was burst long ago
It seems overrated and overdone
I’ve had lovers in 14 countries
Though I’d settle for a lifetime with the right one

I’m attracted to sparkly humans
The kind and the generous in spirit
Pure intentions with a moral compass
And someone who’s a bit satiric

Give me one who is well-rounded
Equal parts naughty and nice
Some PDA? Yes please…
Don’t have to ask me twice!

Beaches, fireworks, roller coasters
Concerts, travel, wine and food
Or snuggles by a crackling fire
Gets me in the mood

Oh, I’ve been loved and hated
By men, but mostly women
Jealousy is a terrible disease
Glad I haven’t been bitten

I adore my female friends
We lift each other up
And slather on insect repellent
Sharing life lessons and makeup

My heart remains soft
Much like my well-chosen words
Honestly, I curse a little (or a lot)
But hate and bigotry is never deserved

I’ll age like fine wine
As I have no bitter roots
Beauty and old are not mutually exclusive
Occasionally I rock thigh-high boots

I have done my time in an office
Traded the boardroom to become a Goddess
Overcame challenges, too many me, toos
What, you expect me to be modest?!

I don’t care what others think
My character and integrity are gold
I’ve worked in war-torn countries
Like a lioness I am bold

My adult children are my heart
They are better versions of me
My parents are shining examples
How good a life lived well can be

It’s not a competition
But if it is, I’ve won
I live my life out loud
Because at 55, it’s just begun!

~Just L (December 4, 2018)

Author’s Note: A little love and silliness — the best antidote for pests!

Be With A Man That Knows How To Love Hard

A man who loves so hard will liberate you on every level. A man whose love emancipates you from your confines, and makes you believe that anything in life is possible.

A man who knows how to love hard will look at you like you are made of magic. The kind of shimmering magic that you feel when you are staring at the sun cast its golden rays down upon the clouds of billowing smoke, turning them bright red; fire red.

A man who will care for you, listen to you, and adore you. He won’t drain your energy or make you feel like giving is only one sided.

A man that respects you on every level- your personality, your values, your religious beliefs, your emotional needs, your physical needs, your general outlook regarding life, your flaws and your past.

A man who prefers date night to consist of you, a man that does more than penetrate you, a man that knows every inch of your body, he knows how to finger your desires and gives you the kind of soul fucking that happens when your limbs are intertwined, and the depth of your conversation becomes the entertainment for the night.

A man who wants to know your fears, worries, insecurities, phobias, and doubts, and wants even more to love you through every last one of them.

A man that knows every layer of your being, your positives, your negatives, your early morning messy look to the flawless red-carpet look of yours. It’s not just how hot or cute you look, it’s the overall essence of your being which he adores. He’s not just into you sexually, he loves you for who you are.

A man who will be there, through all of the inevitable speed bumps of life. A real man will never run away from a situation. He’s a man who’ll put in efforts and fix things no matter how uncomfortable it makes him feel.

A man that on your worst days is there to remind you, that yes you are allowed to feel that way. And when the tough times inevitably roll through your shared lives, make sure you date a man who can look deeply into your eyes and say, “We’ve got this.

A man who lovingly listens to how your day went and knows exactly when to steer you away from your own stormy seas when life’s pressures pile up in too big of a mountain for you to climb on your own.

A man who leaves love notes for you to find scattered throughout your life and not because it’s Valentine’s Day or your Anniversary, but just because. A man that notices the little things you do and won’t miss a chance to express his appreciation towards you to elevate you and to make you feel important. Because he knows at a bone-deep level how much of a prize you are.

A man who wants nothing more than to assist in the ever-expanding greatness of your life. This man will push you forward to live a life of your dreams than be a road blocker. He’s not the man who’ll envy you of your achievements and the large vision you hold for yourself. He’ll celebrate with you and support you. He is not threatened by your successes; he relishes them.

A man that wants to integrate you into his life and bring you around his family and friends. He wants them to love you, and for you to love them. He wants you to be an extension of him and include you in important events and milestones.

This man will open up your world for you, and you will gladly do the same for him.

You see, a REAL man leads with his love.
You will feel it when he enters the room.
You will not have to question.
You will not have to wonder.
He will wrap you in his arms and won’t let go.

A real man loves hard.

You deserve to be loved fiercely.

Be with a man who loves like this, and you will begin to access a depth of love and self-love that you previously had not had access to.

– Mitzi J Hernandez (Published February 22 2018)