You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready…

“Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.”

~ Lillian Vilchez, Married at First Sight Star on her and Tom Wilson’s divorce, May 31, 2017

“Maybe I should get a checklist”

She says that she does not look for anything particular in a man: “Maybe I should get a checklist – I’ve never had one. But love always redefines itself, doesn’t it? What really changes is that the priority in a relationship becomes fierce honesty and comfort with oneself. That becomes really sexy. As opposed to, ‘I’m going to put this mask on and pretend I’m this person.’”

Recently she bumped into a friend who had been married for 40 years. “He has a very beautiful marriage to his amazing wife, and I said, ‘How did you guys do it?’ And he said, ‘The key is we never wanted a divorce on the same day.’ That is the most romantic thing I’ve ever heard.” At first I think she is joking but she is not. “It gives room to the truth,” she says.

~Laura Dern Interview by Helena de Bertodano, The Telegraph, June 15, 2014