He prefers necklaces that choke
Insists he’s just some bloke
One who doesn’t bite, mostly
He promises infinity
So, the tumble begins
The golden smile sunsets;
In the end, darkness descends,
Most of forever deprived
A dying rose on the table,
A blood red soul
Put to rest, in the netherworld.
~Just L (February 11, 2019)
I saw you on the street
In passing, We embraced
You introduced me to your “friend”
Beautiful like a tiny painting
With a limp dishrag handshake.
I greeted you full, squarely on
With my usual over-the-top energy
“So great to see you; and meet you”
I didn’t even suck in my stomach
I don’t need your approval,
~ Just L (February 5, 2019)
1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.
2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad.
3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.
4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.
5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.
6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.
7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don’t want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.
8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.
9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.
10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.
~Shannon L. Alder
When I saw you
Make a life
Shared the same heart
Missed each other
Our lips met
You didn’t see me.
~Just L (January 22, 2019)
Too many women I know have stood or prayerfully waited for too long, thinking that they are doing the right thing, the good thing, even the God thing: NEVER SETTLE for anything less than extraordinary. If you are not in a relationship where EVERY DAY you feel loved, ADORED, cherished, and that it is made abundantly clear by his actions that you are the best thing ever to happen to him, imperfectly perfect yet perfectly suited, a blessing, BEAUTIFUL, sexy, appreciated, AMAZING, full, sated… depending on the circumstances, fix it right now, or ruuuuun. Don’t look back at your life, your journals, the signs… and say, “OMG, I should have never accepted that and/or left that three years earlier!” Let us instead pray dangerously —wantonly, lustily, passionately— let us demand with every ounce of our strength, FREEDOM!
~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, a re-post from January 19, 2012)
Every morning you wake up with someone you love, take a moment to be amazed they are there beside you, be grateful you are alive to bear witness to another day of living and loving another human, be fascinated by this person who was vulnerable enough to wake up beside you– be it one night or one thousand times one thousand nights– place your hands over each other on your heart and embrace this sweet present so many long for. And if one morning you awake and they are gone forever, miss them, but do not ache for them.
~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, January 14, 2019)
I want someone who holds my hand as tightly as they hold my heart;
And misses me desperately when we are apart.
I want someone who adores their life and family
And embraces every moment honestly.
I want someone who is silly and can laugh;
And yet willing to fight on my behalf.
I want someone who fearlessly lives with integrity;
And is open to forge a shared destiny.
I want someone who finds joy in the present;
And one whose soul is luminescent.
I want someone who wants to grow old with me
Without ever growing old, you see.
~ Just L (December 31, 2018)
Author’s Note: I want more.
This year went sideways
Yet I’ve never felt straighter
Survived the mistake of my life
And outshined the haters
I put off worthy suitors
Accumulated abdominal fat
Ignoring my stress levels
For one who was not all that
A talented musician
But a mediocre lover
His ‘sweet’ disposition
An intricate cover
Thrilled I’m not entangled
For a lifetime with this mess
Or have to depend on him
For anything serious
Blinded by early sparks
Red flags I ignored
Committing for too long
To one to be deplored
I entrusted my soul
To an unworthy man
Killing me softly with his song
When I should’ve ran
As 2018 comes to an end
I am so happy it’s over
Not to be entangled for life
With this free loader
~ Just L (December 22, 2018)
Author’s Note: They say the love of your life often comes after the mistake of your life. Here’s to 2019!
He doesn’t need you to fix him
But to live your life unapologetically
But grow on your own
Unconditionally love yourself first then him
He doesn’t need a mother
A savior or even a queen
Instead be his lover
His best friend
And partner in crime
Because he doesn’t need to be rescued from himself
It’s not in how much we give
How much we try to do
It’s about healing but also strength
We can’t say be a man
And then treat him like a child whose problems we step in to solve
We can’t say be a man
Yet then doubt his ability to do just that
Because he doesn’t need a manager for his life
He doesn’t need someone to tell him how to do it
But simply to take the time to do it for himself
To take the opportunity to do his own work for his own reasons, his own purpose
To find his own way apart from the desires or expectations of those around him
And to know we have confidence in him while he does just that
Regardless of where it may lead
Yet to step in and try to fix or solve
Is to take away his divine masculinity
His personal essence
And while we should always be his peace
To do that means we need to see the strength that already exists
The competence in their eyes
And the need to be the warriors of their own lives
Because the burdens in life are placed differently upon the shoulders of men
Yet often questions and doubts reign
As if we need to design the blueprint for their lives so they don’t fuck it up
As if somehow we know more
Better than they do
Yet what it seems to escape some
Is that while he’s a work in progress
He’s not your project to finish
The truth is he’s amazing just as he is
Just as you are
It’s never letting the love grow bigger than both of your independence
So it’s about being there to help
But not control
Being there to support
But not be superior
Being there to inspire
But not take over
Being there to love
But not judge
Because it’s never been about which woman makes him be his best self
But rather the woman that inspires him to become his best self for
So love on him
Let him be the man that he already is
And have the confidence in him to become the man he is destined to be.
– Kate Rose
Author’s Note: Kate Rose is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. I think Kate Rose is my spirit animal! I love her poetry and mindful ramblings.
Kate recently wrote to me: “Beautiful site and collection of words… stay wild in love.” I feel so honored she took the time to send me an email.
In 2016, I was inspired by her, “We Only “in Love with 3 People in Our Lifetime — Each One for a Specific Reason,” but didn’t know it was hers. Still, I am open to #3….
Though her “3 Loves” has been stolen by many as being their own, she has a book coming out in 2019 on just this topic!
Don’t ever allow there to be “the one that got away”; make that ONE, “the one that almost got away”…
How do you know they are “THE ONE”?
When you can no longer imagine your life without them. Then, move heaven and earth to be together.
(And if you can imagine your life without them, move along.)
~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, December 2, 2018)
Author’s Note: I am one of those individuals not interested in “cuffing.” I’d much rather attend holiday events alone so I can mingle without worrying about a plus one. I tend to turn up the heat and dance the winter blues away with friends.
“Cuffing Season” is when one finds a mate for the fall and winter months, but not someone who’s intended to last beyond (though it’s certainly possible). The relationship tends to thaw out when the snow does.
Are you a hopeful romantic like me? You will enjoy the poetry and mindful ramblings of Kate Rose. She is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. She writes about love and truly believes the best is yet to come.