Too many women I know have stood or prayerfully waited for too long, thinking that they are doing the right thing, the good thing, even the God thing: NEVER SETTLE for anything less than extraordinary. If you are not in a relationship where EVERY DAY you feel loved, ADORED, cherished, and that it is made abundantly clear by his actions that you are the best thing ever to happen to him, imperfectly perfect yet perfectly suited, a blessing, BEAUTIFUL, sexy, appreciated, AMAZING, full, sated… depending on the circumstances, fix it right now, or ruuuuun. Don’t look back at your life, your journals, the signs… and say, “OMG, I should have never accepted that and/or left that three years earlier!” Let us instead pray dangerously —wantonly, lustily, passionately— let us demand with every ounce of our strength, FREEDOM!
~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, a re-post from January 19, 2012)
Don’t ever allow there to be “the one that got away”; make that ONE, “the one that almost got away”…
How do you know they are “THE ONE”?
When you can no longer imagine your life without them. Then, move heaven and earth to be together.
(And if you can imagine your life without them, move along.)
~ Just L (Goddess Wisdom, December 2, 2018)
Author’s Note: I am one of those individuals not interested in “cuffing.” I’d much rather attend holiday events alone so I can mingle without worrying about a plus one. I tend to turn up the heat and dance the winter blues away with friends.
“Cuffing Season” is when one finds a mate for the fall and winter months, but not someone who’s intended to last beyond (though it’s certainly possible). The relationship tends to thaw out when the snow does.
Are you a hopeful romantic like me? You will enjoy the poetry and mindful ramblings of Kate Rose. She is an artist, free thinker, lover, writer, passionate yogi, teacher, mother, rule breaker, and rebel. She writes about love and truly believes the best is yet to come.
If it kills you that your ex is happier with another person than s/he ever was with you, chances are you are not a happy person.
~Just L (February 10, 2018, Goddess Wisdom reprinted from 2008)
Author’s Note: Start there. Learn to love yourself first. Bitter doesn’t get more beautiful with age. Self-loathing will destroy you (and your children’s/ future love’s) life. Ultimately, you are only punishing yourself.
“You can take no credit for beauty at sixteen. But if you are still beautiful at sixty, it will be your souls own doing.” ~Marie Carmichael Stopes (1880-1958)
“At midlife I’m having to recognize that there are people I may never be reconciled with. People I loved dearly but we went as far as we could go together. We loved; we tried; that may have to be enough. ~Zana, poet, artist, author of herb woman
“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” -William Penn
I have been pondering my personal life, politics, and Pinot Blanc… After all, aren’t they the same thing? ~ Just L (March 9, 2012)
“I believe that every single event in life that happens is an opportunity to choose love over fear.” ~Oprah Winfrey
No one will ever understand your sacrifice…
Whether it is time; money; dreams deferred. It makes no difference whether you raised children on your own, cashed out your retirement to invest in another’s dream, gave your all to a love, or to an unwinnable war. The reason makes no difference. No one else will understand the depth of your sacrifice in any case. Make sure you are genuinely at peace with it; preferably before you give.
“Personal Life, Politics, and Pinot Blanc” is a periodic series of ponderings by Just L.
~Ponderings by Just L (originally penned December 7, 2010)