I’d much rather be me than you, dear

How does it feel that your supposed seriously committed boyfriend was cheating on you with me until I discovered as much and broke it off with him immediately?

When you continue, long after the fact, to convince me that he loves you, flaunting headless body shots and posting mean girl memes to make your point, isn’t that queer?

He is no prize. I discarded him for good reason. Congratulations on your win.

I’d much rather be me than you, dear.

~ Lori J Bumgardner instead of Just L, because there is nothing poetic about this (November 18, 2018)

Author’s Note:

Confident women set healthy boundaries. They aren’t afraid to walk away when something isn’t working and the thought that they won’t be able to find better or that they will wind up alone doesn’t cross their mind. They can quickly see when a situation is damaging and will remove themselves immediately. Only insecure people put up with treatment that is unacceptable, in large part because they feel that that’s what they deserve on some level. When you learn to value yourself, you will weed out anyone who doesn’t truly value you.

Drafts from my upcoming chapbook on narcissists and cheaters. Working title: “Love Bombed”

If You Knew (Mark My Words)

If you knew how he felt about you
Your posts of him may not be so sweet
He does not sparkle with pride
Surely your love is not so complete

If I knew about you
I may have saved myself the trouble
Simply loving my own fabulous life
Until the truth be told burst my bubble

If you knew what he did without you
Where his energy was every last moment
You may not be so boastful
Don’t think I don’t see your torment

Once I knew about you
I drew the line, as a woman of integrity
Immediately resetting my sails
Reclaiming my authenticity

If you knew how he spoke about you
Harsh words, a reflection of his heart
If you had any self-worth at all
You’d, too, set yourself apart

If only I knew you
I’d give you the wisdom of my age
No promise or bond is worth it
You’ll become bitter and full of rage

Mark my words.

~ Just L (November 14, 2018)

 

 

 

Nothing Left to Say

In each conversation he challenged the trivial without ever addressing his heart.
“We’re all good” ; “Why you say that? ; “I’m just this way.”
Mostly picking specific words apart.
When his lies were revealed he had nothing left to say.

~ Just L (November 4, 2018)

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Author’s Note: He never cared to clear the air, you know. So, from my heart, memories of him and dreams of us, I let go.

September Stalker Vibes

“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves.” -William Penn

Why would “___” (who has a multitude of fake social media profiles), a presumably educated and intelligent adult woman, who has never met me and knows nothing of substance of my life and loves, but has continually stalked me over the past two years post this kind of crap?

She also obsesses on my poetry site every week, presuming my every word has something to do with her life, which she then uses to cause others in her life tremendous pain and suffering.

How sad. Doesn’t she know this only causes others to feel embarrassed for her, and now me.

I feel a strange mix of compassion and pity for her.

Especially, when she tries to insult me with words like “OLD” or “DESPERATE” or implies that if my life was all that wonderful, I wouldn’t have to brag (write) about it…

OH HONEY! Just wait. 55 is far from old. I will forever be a young spirit. I am self-employed, I am free to travel, enjoy the finer things and savor the simple treasures. I have experience and wouldn’t trade that for the world.

And as for my life? It is simply MY life and I feel extraordinarily blessed that I have been able to create it in spite of hardships over the years. I am proud to be a woman who inspires others to reach higher and a mother my adult children admire. I have the deep pleasure of satisfaction of being a leader in my profession, in part because I have consciously cultivated deeply authentic, lasting relationships.

This Thanksgiving I will be hosting my family near and far, as well as my ex and his loves, we will celebrate our children, our successes, our resiliency, our shared stories, and laugh with truly grateful hearts.

I challenge you to do the same. Apparently, you have a lot of time on your hands and a lot of years in front of you. May time humble you.

~ Lori J Bumgardner instead of Just L, because there is nothing poetic about this (September 29, 2018)

Ignored
It seems you are the “bunny-boiler”.

Author’s Note: All images taken from public posts on facebook. Any publishing by a facebook user using the Public setting is a release under a free content license.

Perhaps you do not know how Google Analytics works? Please just stop stalking me. I guarantee you that I am not your problem. I broke it off with the problem earlier this month.

With Another

You think he’s so present
As he turns off his phone
Holding you, your attention
Surely he’s yours alone.

You think you’re so special
As late night he slips in
Then sleeps in so sweetly
Next night he does it again.

With another.

~Just L (March 28, 2018)

Author’s Note: Too many tales of infidelity lately… This was the trick of my narcissist, unfaithful ex-husband. Beware.

Benefit of the Doubt

Are we really going to play this game, I stated?
What game is that? He inquired.
Where you lie and I lie down pretending not to notice, I said in a calm but direct tone.
I am not lying to you, He began…
What do you think, you have some women’s intuition? He continued confidently.
Behold, what is your secret weapon? He brandished.
When a man’s words do not match his actions, always believe his actions.
BAM.

~Just L (Goddess Wisdom, March 21, 2018)

Author’s Note: The truth is always in his actions. Words = Actions = A man who is worthy of a woman’s attention.